My favorite love song Redux

In honor of the fake holiday upon us tomorrow, I will add another love song and re-post this one from last year.

I’m not a huge fan of Valentine’s day. I think it’s a fake holiday. But this is my favorite love song. What’s yours?

Not that much has changed romantically for me this year. I repeated some mistakes and made some new ones, hung out with some old girlfriends and tried to make new ones and generally continued on as I normally have. But things feel different. This winter has been a tough one with some glimmers of luck and hope. I just got a long term substitution job teaching in my general field and in the second  interview I was asked if I wanted to play with the teacher’s band. The bassist can’t play for the school assembly on Friday and it appears I will fill that spot. It’s good to meet everyone, put me in their minds and hopefully get a real job in the near future. It looks brighter than it has professionally in some time.

Romantically, I still need to put a lot more effort in getting out there and having new experiences as I am slightly limited by geography. I do feel a lot more complete as a person than ever before and this will be a great asset in any further serious relationship. If you are happy with yourself, you are much more likelier to be able to make someone else happy.

I have posted this song before but I just love the lyrics. Even if you hate the Dead, listen to the lyrics for a second. I love the metaphor of the cup and how only love can fill it. As I put down alcohol for a while for Lent, I will have no choice but to try and fill that cup with love.

I know a lot of people whom I consider very unhappy in relationships that appear to be the cause of their discomfort. But what do I know? I am not in those relationships and obviously happiness is entirely perspective based. So, if you have someone you love, take a little time tomorrow to tell them you love them. Maybe they don’t need candy, a card, or flowers. Maybe they just need a hug, for you to tell them you love them or a quickie in your backseat in a public place. Whatever it is, figure it out and do it because if you have love then you out to try and keep it as long as you can. Nothing lasts forever and you got to enjoy it when you can.

Way up there for my favorite love song ever because it’s mushy while realistic just like our real lives. When I saw them do this live in college, my soon to be girlfriend was in the crowd near me. I wasn’t talking to her at the time for whatever stupid reasons and I remember thinking that no matter how angry I was at the time, I wish I could have kissed her underneath the exploding paper machines and strobe lights while this song played. You don’t get many cinematic romantic moments in life so grab them when you can!

If you don’t have someone you love, be patient. I really do believe that things happen for a reason and when they should.  It is hard to always see the wisdom at the time and even down the road, but almost everything turns out in the wash. If you are alone tomorrow night, do something you enjoy and that makes you happy. If you are lucky, it will also make you a happier person in general and more apt to find someone you can also make happy. Tomorrow, I am going to learn the songs for the teacher band to play on Friday in front of 1,000 people even though I am basically scared shit-less. Hey, it will make me a a better player and who knows, maybe there’s a lonely French teacher out there who is yearning for a toe headed novice bassist with multiple college degrees and a sick sense of humor. This last song is something I’ve wanted to share a while. Enjoy the day!

I bet the Elder J hates this song but ignore the redneck connotation. This is one of the prettiest and most honest songs ever written about just trying to be a simple person in a crazy world. I have been thinking about getting a female singer to do this with my band because none of us can pull it off. Also, I think it would be an underlying thing that this song is universal and just because it says man doesn’t mean it isn’t an excellent statement on the human condition. Happy Valentine’s Day!

9 comments on “My favorite love song Redux

  1. theelderj says:

    Great choice my brother. Although, it does get a bit dark here and there. But, hey, that’s Nick Drake (and that’s love).

    I don’t know if I exactly have a favorite love song. I have a few, some odd: 1. “Been Thinking about You” Radiohead (Pablohoney) is eerie and stalkerish, but a good song; 2. U2 deserves a place with either “One” (Achtung Baby) or “With or Without you” (Joshua Tree, let’s be honest, cover to cover it is a love-making album; 3 “This Must Be the Place”, The Talking Heads, just for the one line “love you till my stops / love you till I’m dead” and 4. The sweetness of Bright Eyes’ “First Day of my Life”. and 5. Just for the fun of it, “1234” by Feist.

    I am sure there are many more, but you stole “Time has told me”

    Oh, the New Jersey Emo teenage girl who lives in my mind wanted me to add the incomparable “Skinny Love” by Bon Iver and “Passenger Seat” by Death Cab for Cutie.

    • professormortis says:

      I agree, Nick Drake is a great choice. Mine would be between The Paragons’ version of The Tide is High, In Dreams by Roy Orbison, either Louis Armstrong’s or Billy Ward’s Stardust Memories, or After Hours by The Velvet Underground.

      Oh, got it: Holding Hands and Feeding Ducks by The Brunettes.

    • theyoungerj says:

      yikes to the emo choices.. My one problem with my choice…..could have used more pedal steel.
      Professor…. your Velvet Underground option is my favorite.

  2. kate58 says:

    I don’t have a favourite ‘love’ song. But I do like Nick Drake…. 🙂

    • theyoungerj says:

      I probably don’t either, I was just saying that in the heat of the moment on the fake holiday. Nick Drake is awesome, there’s not much of his stuff that isn’t good.

  3. theelderj says:

    I wish I could be dismissive of Valentine’s day as I want to be. I know it is a hallmark holiday and overwrought and that we put way too much emphasis on the purchasing part of it, but there is a part of me that is a sappy romantic.

    And here’s how I know: I proposed to my wife on Valentine’s day in 2001. After being married for years and having two children together, I still think back to how nervous I was, how my father and my roommate (the Historian, Professor Mortis) were the only ones who knew what I was going to do, and almost nothing else besides the fact that I never doubted that what I was doing was the right thing.

    As far as songs? The problem with ‘love’ songs, is that most of the songs that stick with us about love are about love desired and not yet obtained or about love lost. Who writes songs about nice healthy stable relationships?

    I still think that one of my favorite love songs is Bright Eyes’ “First Day of My Life”

    Favorite love song of the past year? Hey Ho”, The Lumineers. What a beautiful and honest song.

    Although, I have to admit that this was a great song too: The John Wayne”, Little Green Cars

    The lyrics here don’t really work out, though. This is a sad song:
    You know it’s your neglect
    is the reason that I’m so obsessed with you
    And when I asked you your name you said John Wayne
    And I guess it’s true
    Cause then you shot me down
    Doubled over and I hit the ground right in front of you
    I guess in the Wild West
    it’s ok to shoot the pest that’s annoying you

    But, today, my brother, here’s a song you should know by an artist you probably don’t: “True Love Will Find you in The End”, by Daniel Johnston; because, I know, that like me, you will believe in something even if you rarely see it.

    Here’s the whole song:

    True love will find you in the end
    You’ll find out just who was your friend
    Don’t be sad, I know you will,
    But don’t give up until
    True love finds you in the end.

    This is a promise with a catch
    Only if you’re looking will it find you
    ‘Cause true love is searching too
    But how can it recognize you
    Unless you step out into the light?
    But don’t give up until
    True love finds you in the end.

    If you haven’t seen the documentary about this guy, you need to.

  4. professormortis says:

    Thanks for the reblog…somehow this reminded me of a song I hadn’t listened to in years, Louis Armstrong’s version of No One But You, which was the soundtrack of my initial infatuation/dating of my wife.

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